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Kim Cattrall Interview
What was the genesis of your new book, Satisfaction: The Art of the Female Orgasm? Well, I was approached to write a book, and I thought long and hard and talked to Mark about what I'd like to write about. What became very clear was that I had been very lucky in my professional life, but for most of my single life, I'd been unfulfilled. Sexually, you mean. Yes, as I say in the opening of the book, playing a character who is so fulfilled sexually on Sex and the City, as well as other roles I've done, it was getting to a point where before I met Mark, my real-life experience was very frustrating. I realized that most women do not have very happy sex lives, and one of the main reasons is that men don't know what to do and women don't know how to tell them. And the book...? I thought it would be really important to have a book from a couple who had gone through this journey and found satisfaction with a mate. I thought maybe I could, in some small way, change the way women and men communicate. It couldn't be much more explicit--there's no skirting anything. Well, I think that's what you need. When your goal is satisfaction and you love someone, you want them to be fulfilled sexually, and it's really great for both of you to know how to make that happen. You had both gone through divorces. Was it a romantic whirl from the time you met, or did you have to work through the resistance of having been burned before.? I think that intimacy, as you get older--especially with the amount of disappointment and frustration and unfulfilled relationships I'd been through--can be more difficult to achieve. You want it to be a certain way, but you have battle scars, so you put on some armor. That's one unusual thing about Samantha--no matter how much she gets burned, she bravely charges in again. Yes, no matter how many cliffs she falls off, she gets up. That's one of the things I love about her. After making love against a fire engine, having a three-way, a lesbian lover and various other things, what's left for Samantha? In the last three years, Samantha has taken exterior journeys, and now--almost like what happens in the book--some of the armor falls away, and it's touching, heartwarming, hysterical and tragic all at the same time. That begs the question, how long can the series go on? As far as we've come, we can go further and be more honest about what it's like as a single gal. It's not terribly glamorous. Two more seasons is what has been talked about. I think it will depend on how the next season unfolds. Do you think the characters are evolving? Oh, yes. It's a large act for a half hour, but I think that's why we've been successful. We're raising the bar for honesty. And if you're honest in creating your characters, they must change and grow, or they die. Have you found that people regard Samantha as a sort of role model? Yes. What women want to do, and I think men to a certain extent, is to share their experiences, and they see this character as going through things that have touched them in their own lives. They have had no one to share with--no one out there in that arena. I think a lot of women are drawn to in the sense of, "She'll understand. She plays the character." Have you had thoughts of having a family, or is that not in the cards for the two of you? I'm 45 now, so...Well, it's still up for conversation, but I'm having such a great time doing other things, and if I had a child, I don't think I'd want to do anything but be a mom. I don't think I'd want to go to work. Mark has been helping me see that if indeed we do not end up having a child, there can be other ways to be a mom in the world. What do you mean? I think that as a woman, even if you don't have a child, it's important to have children in your life. So, whether it's spending time with my stepdaughter, helping a young actress, giving talks at an acting school--it's spending time cultivating relationships that are maternalistic...so you still have that in your life, and it's still part of your joy. |
